Abortion Pill Oakland

Use Caution When Searching for the Abortion Pill in Oakland

I learned the hard way to exert caution when searching for the abortion pill in Oakland, CA. In the spring of 2017, I found myself pregnant. I was in law school and could not fathom how I could possibly meet the demands of graduate school with a baby.

My parents sent me to America from China to study international financial law because they felt it would guarantee me a good job when I returned home to Beijing. The oldest of two children, I was expected to excel at all that I did. I was living with my aunt in Oakland while attending U.C. Berkeley. My aunt had never had children and was very rigid in her approach to life. I knew there was no way my aunt would embrace me and a baby. I felt an abortion was my only option.

While searching for the abortion clinics online, I saw several ads pop up for the abortion pill. I could order the abortion pill and have it mailed to me for less money than a surgical abortion. Based on the reviews, they seemed legit. Besides, all of the abortion clinics in Oakland wanted me to go in for a pregnancy test and ultrasound and I had to take the first pill of the two-pill regimen in the clinic. On top of that, I couldn’t even get an appointment at an abortion clinic in Oakland for two weeks!

The online pharmacy required a pregnancy verification as proof that I was pregnant. I was thrilled when I found Support Circle because they were able to get me in within a day or so. The nurse at Support Circle was nice. She did a pregnancy test with a medical grade test to see if I really was pregnant.  When that came back positive, she did an ultrasound to date the pregnancy and to make sure the pregnancy was viable and not ectopic.  I was at eight weeks gestation.

Everyone at Support Circle was professional and kind. They really listened to me and seemed to genuinely want to help. At that time, I just wanted to get the abortion pill, have an abortion and get on with my life without my family knowing I was ever pregnant. Once I uploaded my pregnancy verification to the online abortion pill site, I received my abortion pill regimen within a week.

I took the pills as soon as they arrived because I was l almost at the 10-week point.  After 10 weeks, the FDA has not approved the use of the abortion pill. The process was far more intense than I had expected. I didn’t realize the side effects would be so difficult. I expected some pain and nausea but it was so bad, my aunt almost called the ambulance. Of course, I couldn’t let that happen. So, I pretended everything was okay and that I was recovering from the “flu.”

Two weeks later, I was still feeling nauseous every day. I knew something was wrong. I went to my doctor who informed me that I was still pregnant. The “abortion pills” I had purchased online did nothing to end my pregnancy. Now, my options were more limited because I was 12 weeks pregnant. I was devastated. I felt completely alone and didn’t know where to turn.

Because they had been very helpful the first time, I went back to Support Circle to talk to my patient advocate. I was so emotional and distraught. She was so wonderful and supportive that it was almost like talking to my best friend. My patient advocate came alongside me as I figured out my next steps and shared community resources that I had no clue existed.

I won’t tell you all that happened afterward but I wanted to show my gratitude to my patient advocate for all of her care and concern. I can’t thank my Support Circle patient advocate enough. She was there for me. I would recommend someone call Support Circle FIRST if they are alone and pregnant and looking for the abortion pill in Oakland, like I was.

Abortion Clinics Near Me

In 2018, I was searching for abortion clinics near me when I found Support Circle. My best friend and I had recently moved to the area to begin school at Notre Dame de Namur. I was so busy starting college that I didn’t realize I had missed my period.

My high school sweetheart and I had gone to colleges on opposite coasts.  We vowed to be faithful to each other and to focus on our education, not on partying or dating other people. At first, we kept in touch with FaceTime on our iPhones and with texts and phone calls.  But the FaceTime had stopped after the first week and the texts from him stopped soon after. I could see him partying on Insta and that’s how I found out about his new girlfriend. It was when I checked my calendar trying to figure out when he had started dating her that I realized I had not had a period since moving to the Bay Area.

I raced to Walgreens pharmacy to get a pregnancy test. Just in case, I got the two-test pack. Positive. Both of them. I didn’t know what to do. When my roommate came home that night, I told her. She knew exactly what to do. She said she had used the abortion pill a year before and told me I needed to Google abortion clinics near me to find a place to get the abortion pill. So, I did. And that’s when I found Support Circle.

Well, first I found a couple of abortion clinics but they were either closed permanently or I couldn’t get an appointment right away. I was going out of my mind. I was pregnant! I was so confused. I had just started college. I was so scared to tell my boyfriend – my ex-boyfriend? He still hadn’t admitted to me that he was dating the girl on his Insta. I needed to talk to someone immediately. And I needed the abortion pill yesterday!

The nurse at Support Circle confirmed that I was pregnant with a pregnancy test.  She told me that, based on the information I gave her, I was approximately 10 weeks pregnant. To verify this, she did an ultrasound. With measurements from the ultrasound, she dated the pregnancy at 11 weeks. When she told me I was too far along for the abortion pill, I panicked inside. I looked at the screen that I had been avoiding and could clearly see my baby’s heart beating and he moved around a lot. I was fascinated by what I saw on the screen and began to tear up. There was no way I could have an abortion.

I was lost. I didn’t know what to do. I had so many questions. How would I care for a child? Would I be able to finish college? Where would I live? So many more questions. Over the next few weeks, my patient advocate listened and helped me find the resources I needed to be able to do this parenting thing on my own. I don’t know what I would have done without her help.

Support Circle has my vote!  Call or visit Support Circle if you are pregnant and need a pregnancy ultrasound or to confirm your pregnancy.  Instead of finding an abortion clinic near me, I found the support and help I needed to make my best decision.

 

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Abortion in Redwood City, CA

Are you searching for an abortion in Redwood City, CA?  Let’s take it one step at a time. First, are you sure you are pregnant? Home pregnancy tests are usually pretty accurate but they can’t tell you if your pregnancy is viable or how far along the pregnancy is. Step one is to get a reliable pregnancy test from a medical clinic. And, if that test is positive, you can have an ultrasound to confirm and date the pregnancy.

An ultrasound as step two is important because sometimes, the pregnancy is not viable. If it is not viable, you may experience a miscarriage soon, naturally. In that case, you would not need to obtain an abortion. A second instance when a pregnancy is not viable is when the fetus is not in the uterus, where it should be. If the fetus is growing in your fallopian tubes, this is called an ectopic pregnancy and can potentially be life-threatening. The earlier you know if the pregnancy is viable, the better for your physical and mental well-being.

Step three is knowing how far along the pregnancy is. If your pregnancy is viable, you will need to know how many weeks gestation – often referred to as dating the pregnancy. This is important because your abortion options and pregnancy options are completely dependent on how many weeks gestation the pregnancy is. You could be farther along than you realize. The ultrasound allows the nurse to accurately date your pregnancy. You can’t make a well-informed abortion or pregnancy decision until you know how far long the pregnancy is. For example, if you are searching for an abortion in Redwood City, CA, your options change dramatically after 10 weeks gestation.

Whatever your final decision, whether you decide to have an abortion, place your child for adoption, or parent, you will need a pregnancy verification to obtain services. Time is of the essence so it is best if you can obtain the pregnancy test, ultrasound and pregnancy verification at the same location, ideally on one visit, or in two visits if you are too early in your pregnancy to receive an ultrasound procedure. The nurses at Support Circle’s medical clinic in Redwood City can provide the pregnancy verification, help you with your early pregnancy decision and answer your medical questions. They can even provide you with symptom relief from nausea.

A wise next step is to take a moment to consider who your support system is. Do you have a trusted family member, friend, maybe even a teacher or co-worker that you can discuss your thoughts with?  If you would like to sit down with someone who can listen and help you figure out who should be in your support system, or if you feel like you don’t have someone that you can talk to, come to Support Circle.  The patient advocates and specialists at Support Circle listen and can provide emotional support regardless of your final decision. As specialists, they can share community resources that you never even knew existed! They can help you process through your decision-making and can answer your many questions.

Support Circle can help with free pregnancy tests, ultrasounds and pregnancy verification and provide emotional support while you navigate your pregnancy decision. Visit our medical clinic in Redwood City, CA if you are considering an abortion.

 

Abortion Clinic Redwood City

I asked my roommate to take me to an abortion clinic in Redwood City because if I showed up at home pregnant, my life would be over.

I’m a Dreamer. My parents risked their lives to leave Columbia and come to America to give me and my younger sister a better chance at life. All I ever heard growing up was how smart and strong and beautiful I was. How I would go to Stanford University, become a doctor and make my parents proud. The pressure to be perfect was too much. I needed a release. I started going to parties with my roommate. My grades began to slip. I was no longer the perfect A student.

When my period was a few days late, I told myself it was just the stress and all the late nights studying to get my GPA back up. After a week, I began to think about being pregnant 24/7. I couldn’t focus on much else. I kept counting and trying to figure out if it could be possible. Finally, I took a home pregnancy test. I got the three-pack and took all three at the same time. Pregnant. Pregnant. Pregnant!

How had I made such a mess of my life in just a few months? I knew I couldn’t disappoint my family. It was bigger than disappointment. It was betrayal. I had betrayed their trust in me. My only choice was to go with my roommate to get an abortion in Redwood City as it was close, but far enough away that no one would recognize me. I called to make the appointment but they couldn’t see me for two more weeks. Midterms week!

My roommate took me to Support Circle in Redwood City so that I could at least get a pregnancy verification which would date the pregnancy. At Support Circle, it felt like I was talking to my best friend. Even though she was older than me, she really heard me. The ultrasound told us that I had an ectopic pregnancy and my life was in danger. I went straight to the ER. I didn’t realize how risky ectopic pregnancies are until the Support Circle nurse calmly explained it to me. I am alive today because of the nurse at Support Circle.

If you think you may be pregnant and are looking for an abortion clinic in Redwood City, I really recommend you check out Support Circle for a pregnancy verification.

 

Abortion in San Francisco, CA

If you’re considering abortion in San Francisco, CA, you’ll probably relate to Jennifer’s* recent story. At the time, the young professional was concerned about keeping her job, making ends meet due to the rising housing costs in the Bay Area, and she had concerns about the relationship with the father of her preborn baby. Jennifer had concerns very common among women considering abortion. The staff at Support Circle help women like Jennifer every day. Our supportive and attentive team of professionals specialize in providing early pregnancy decision-making services.

Between her company’s year-end tasks and an unexpected break up with her boyfriend, it was four weeks after her missed period before Jennifer even realized her period was late. She immediately decided to have an abortion. A quick search provided the names of several abortion clinics and pregnancy centers in San Francisco. Jennifer liked that Support Circle offered “Time, Space and Support.” She made an appointment and left work a few minutes early to walk to our Sutter Street location. She was relieved to see that our clinic is located in a large medical building that is very discreet due to the many types of medical practices located there.

Once inside our clinic, one of our nurses gave Jennifer a pregnancy test and then a free ultrasound to verify and date the pregnancy and to determine if the pregnancy was viable. The nurse explained that verification and dating was the first step to know all of the available options and to make her decision.

Jennifer shared with her patient advocate that she had been nervous and stressed all day at work, wondering if she was pregnant. Based on her fears and concerns, she considered getting an abortion in San Francisco as her only option. Just a few years out of college, Jennifer was barely making ends meet, even though she had been promoted twice. She couldn’t see how she could possibly afford diapers and childcare on her current budget. Family babysitting was not an option because Jennifer, like so many who live in the Bay Area, had moved here to attend college but remained nearby her alma mater, UC Berkeley.

The father of the baby had suddenly ended the relationship about a month earlier. Since he had not responded to any of Jennifer’s texts seeking closure and blocked her on social media, Jennifer had no way of getting in touch with him. All of Jennifer’s friends were hard at work on their new career tracks. She didn’t think her friends would be understanding or supportive of her pregnancy. Jennifer felt completely alone and without any other option than to go through with an abortion.

The patient advocate took the time to explain all of Jennifer’s options. At Support Circle, we are committed to helping women unearth those things that are perhaps blocking them from making a decision. We want each patient to feel special and unique because every individual who walks through that door, from our perspective, is special and unique.

Jennifer was surprised to learn of the many community resources available to her. With this new information, Jennifer said she felt better informed about her body and felt empowered to make the decision that was right for her and her pregnancy. If you are considering abortion in San Francisco, CA and need a pregnancy verification, a consultation with a nurse, or just to talk, please contact Support Circle’s team of caring professionals today.

*Real name not used to protect patient privacy

 

Abortion in Oakland, CA

If you are looking for an abortion in Oakland, CA, you may have a lot of questions and emotions swirling. Finding out that you are pregnant when you have been trying can carry a whole host of emotions you weren’t expecting – much less finding out you are pregnant when you were not trying!

Take a deep breath. When we focus on controlling our breathing it helps us to take time to get oxygen to our brains and our bodies but it also helps us to slow things down. Take a moment to just relax. Focus on relaxing your entire body from head to toe.

Now that you are relaxed, give yourself the gift of time, space and support to make this decision. Most people don’t do that when they get into a stressful situation or an emergency. They make decisions that are reactionary, made out of survival or crisis mode thinking, which they sometimes regret afterward. Those tend to be the decisions that are not well thought out. In stressful situations, if you get tunnel vision, you might not look at the bigger picture. This can prevent you from seeing options and strategies available to you. By giving yourself the gift of time, space and support, you will often make better decisions that you can be comfortable with long-term.

Tunnel vision will not only affect your ultimate decision on whether to carry the baby to term, place for adoption or get an abortion in Oakland, but it will also affect smaller and mundane decisions and actions you take over the coming weeks.  Tunnel vision affects how you interact with the people closest to you in your life, who are the ones who may help you find your best way forward. You may be hyper-focused on this one decision but there are a thousand other decisions that this affects. That’s why it is so important to give yourself the time and space to think clearly and calmly.

Take a moment to consider who your support system is. Who can you trust? It could be a family member, a friend, maybe even a teacher or co-worker.  If you’d like to sit down with someone who can listen and help you figure out who should be in your support system, or if you feel like you don’t have someone in your close circle that you can talk to, come to Support Circle.  The patient advocates and specialists at Support Circle medical clinics can explain all of your options in easy to understand language. They listen and can provide emotional support regardless of your final decision. As professionals, they can share community resources that you never even knew existed! Whether you decide to parent, make an adoption plan for your child, or have an abortion, it feels good to talk to someone who understands, who can help you process through your decision-making and can answer your many questions.

You don’t have to feel alone and stressed if you are looking for an abortion in Oakland, CA. Support Circle is here to help you navigate your pregnancy decision.

Disclaimer: Support Circle is a safe place free of pressure.  We provide early pregnancy and decision-making services, but do not provide or refer for labor, delivery or abortion.

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Pregnant? Considering your options?

Pregnant? Considering abortion? Considering your pregnancy options?

Need someone to talk to? We can help.

Oakland: 510-891-9998

San Francisco: 415-627-9175

Redwood City: 650-261-9115

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Pregnant? Need Options?

Pregnant? Unsure of your options? Need someone to talk to? We can help.

Oakland: 510-891-9998

San Francisco: 415-627-9175

Redwood City: 650-261-9115

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How Do I Tell My Boss I Am Pregnant?

Pregnancy can be a wonderful time of hope and excitement while awaiting your newest family member. It can also be a time of uncertainty, especially where your employment is concerned. Some employers have positive attitudes and policies regarding maternity leave and parenting, while other employers have a less than welcoming approach. The good news is that there are laws to protect pregnant women and most employers fall somewhere in the middle of the extremes.

Often, telling our boss that we are pregnant can be the biggest stress hurdle. Here are some helpful tips to help you tell your employer that you are pregnant:

1. Know your rights. Read your company’s policy on maternity leave and parental leave and familiarize yourself with the federal Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) and state laws regarding maternity leave. The U.S. does not have paid maternity leave laws. California is one of only four states that have paid maternity leave laws in addition to FMLA. It might tip your hand to ask HR for the company’s maternity leave policies. You should be able to access company policies in your initial employment paperwork, by requesting a copy of the employee handbook/policy manual from HR, or it may be in an employee online portal.

2. When to tell. Many women wait until they are into the second trimester (four to six months) before telling an employer of their pregnancy. Often, this is when women begin to “show” but it is also considered a “safe” time since most miscarriages occur in the first trimester (three months) of a pregnancy. Some women have such severe morning sickness that they may need to share the news with their employer early in their pregnancy as it could become a medical issue impacting their performance.

Consider timing your announcement until after an upcoming performance review, project deadline or deal. Telling your supervisor before a pending company reorganization could be mutually beneficial if you don’t plan on returning after the baby is born. It could be a good time to part ways and possibly leave with a severance package or unemployment benefits instead of just quitting after the baby is born. Conversely, if you plan to return after the baby is born, you might consider holding off on sharing your pregnancy news. Employers are not legally permitted to fire you for being pregnant but they can let you go under the guise of the reorganization.

3. Who to tell. Often, co-workers are close friends so women are most likely share their pregnancy news with them first – or with social media. However, it would be best to share your pregnancy news with your direct supervisor or human resources first. Which leads us to best practices on how to tell your employer you are pregnant.

4. How to tell. Face-to-face is the best way to tell your employer. This enables you to gauge her reaction and give you an insight into how she and/or the company may feel about pregnant employees, maternity leave, and accommodating working parents. If you are concerned about your direct supervisor’s reaction, consider sharing the news with HR first or requesting a meeting with HR, you and your supervisor.

5. What to say. The initial announcement should be brief to share that you are pregnant and the baby’s due date. Don’t overshare about the details – save those for your personal friends over lunch or dinner. You may want to assure your employer that you have given this much thought but all of the logistics (like this maternity leave plan) can be worked out in the coming months. Don’t lock yourself into any promises or commitments early on (i.e. Do not say: “I plan to work right up until my due date,” or, “I will only need six weeks off.”) because you won’t know details until you and your doctor discuss your medical needs in the coming months.

6. Email Follow Up. It’s always good to have an electronic record of the date and nature of your conversation. The face-to-face should be followed up with a simple email the same day: “Susan, Thanks for your time today so I could share my pregnancy announcement with you. The baby’s due date is… I look forward to working out the logistics for my leave in the coming months.”

With a little advance planning, telling your boss that you are pregnant can be a simple and positive experience. If you are pregnant and unsure of your pregnancy decision, the client advocates at Support Circle can listen and help you make a decision that is in line with your values. We can also help prepare for your conversation with your employer by helping you to talk it through and role play.

To schedule an appointment at one of our three Bay Area clinics, call 888-252-1822 or visit: supportcircle.org/today.

 

Helpful Links
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Reference Links
Dept. of Labor. Federal Law on Maternity Leave

California Legislature. California Law on Paid Maternity Leave 

Fairy God Boss. How to Create a Maternity Leave Plan

 

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Pregnancy and STD’s, STI’s

STIs, STDs and Pregnancy

Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) are not fun or easy to talk about. It can be embarrassing to talk about STIs or STDs, but they are more common than you might realize. And, when it comes to pregnancy and STIs and STDs, it is best to learn about how to protect yourself from and treat STIs and STDs.

Pregnancy and STIs STDsSTIs and STDs are infections that are spread by having sex with someone that has a sexually transmitted infection. This could include oral, vaginal or anal intercourse. While STIs are common among men and women who are sexually active, many people do not know they have been infected. Some women may not find out that they have an STI until their first prenatal appointment when pregnant. Prenatal STI screening is standard because it is best to find out about an STI early in your pregnancy.

How do I know if I have an STI or STD?
At the first prenatal appointment, many women are tested (screened) for STIs including: chlamydia, gonorrhea, HIV, syphilis, Hepatitis B, and Hepatitis C. Testing may be done through blood tests, vaginal swabs and urine tests. If you suspect you might have an STI/STD, you should ask for testing. Testing is routinely done on pregnant women who are less than 25 years of age as well as those women that have new or multiple sexual partners, have a sexual partner that has other partners, past or current needle drug users, not in a monogamous relationship, no or sporadic condom use, a sexual partner that has an STI, sex workers, exchanging sex for drugs or money, and/or those living in high risk areas.

What happens if I have an STI or STD?
If you test positive, you will be notified by your healthcare professional in several days or about a week. Usually, immediate treatment with antibiotics can clear up an STI. A follow-up test in the third trimester may be performed, depending on your age or risk factors. In the case of HIV, on-going treatment for you and your baby will be required. With all STIs, the sooner treatment is started, the sooner the infection can be treated and reduce the incidence of passing the STI on to your baby.

Will my pregnancy be affected?
Early testing during the first trimester and follow up testing during the third trimester, as well as treatment if an STI has been detected, will have a major impact on the chance of you and your baby being affected. In most cases, early detection and treatment will resolve any potential complications.

If untested and/or untreated, sexually transmitted infections in pregnant women could cause problems during pregnancy such as: preterm labor, premature rupture of membranes, and low birth weight. The infant could contract the STI during the pregnancy, during vaginal delivery, or after birth through breastfeeding, such in the case of HIV. Some STIs could have lifelong implications for your child. For these reasons, we strongly encourage women to have STI testing early in their pregnancy and to follow recommended treatment protocol(s).

Women who want to know more about STIs/STDs in pregnancy are welcome to talk to the team at Support Circle. Our caring staff will maintain your confidentiality while addressing your most pressing questions and can provide a list of clinics that provide STI/STD testing. We have three Bay Area clinics in San Francisco, Oakland and Redwood City for your convenience. Call or walk-in today.

Links
Am I Pregnant?
Pregnancy and HIV
Talk to a Nurse

 

References
1. https://www.cdc.gov/std/pregnancy/stdfact-pregnancy-detailed.htm
2. http://www.webmd.com/baby/pregnancy-sexually-transmitted-diseases

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