I went to Support Circle for an ultrasound before getting an abortion near me

Recently, I knew I was pregnant and decided to get an abortion near me. I needed an ultrasound to date my pregnancy because I wasn’t sure how far along I was and I wanted to know exactly what my abortion options were. A flier near campus said Support Circle does ultrasounds at no cost so I went there.

The nurse asked if I wanted to see the ultrasound screen. I told her I did not. She was great about it and didn’t pressure me at all. I started to tear up and had to wipe away my tears. The nurse was so kind and supportive of me. She was also very informative about my pregnancy and abortion options.  I was confident in my decision but I just couldn’t stop the tears from rolling down my face. I was embarrassed and confused as to why I was reacting like that.

When I met with the advocate, Irene, the tears just kept falling as I shared that I had an abortion my senior year in high school. Irene was so accepting and supportive of me without even saying very much. She didn’t have to – I just kept talking and talking. I told her that I had not spoken to a counselor or even cried like this over the first abortion. Until that moment, I didn’t realize that I could or even should get counseling or grieve my first abortion. It was an end or a loss so it makes sense that I should grieve it.  In all this time, I had avoided my feelings surrounding that abortion. It felt good to talk and to get it all out.

Then I talked about why I wanted to get an abortion near me this time. My boyfriend, Morgan, and I have been together for a few years but I just wasn’t ready to have a baby. Morgan knows I am pregnant and said he would be supportive of me and whatever decision I made. There’s been so much going on and I just can’t have a baby now. Irene was supportive and encouraging. I appreciated that she respected my decision. Irene told me she is available for crying sessions. I laughed and thanked her. She really was wonderful. When I left Support Circle, I told Irene that I wish there were more people in the world like her and the nurse and asked if I could have a hug.

I am thankful to Support Circle for giving me an ultrasound to date my pregnancy and explained my options before I got an abortion near me. They gave me the time I needed to feel heard, were supportive of me and respected my decision.