I went to Support Circle for an ultrasound before getting an abortion near me

Recently, I knew I was pregnant and decided to get an abortion near me. I needed an ultrasound to date my pregnancy because I wasn’t sure how far along I was and I wanted to know exactly what my abortion options were. A flier near campus said Support Circle does ultrasounds at no cost so I went there.

The nurse asked if I wanted to see the ultrasound screen. I told her I did not. She was great about it and didn’t pressure me at all. I started to tear up and had to wipe away my tears. The nurse was so kind and supportive of me. She was also very informative about my pregnancy and abortion options.  I was confident in my decision but I just couldn’t stop the tears from rolling down my face. I was embarrassed and confused as to why I was reacting like that.

When I met with the advocate, Irene, the tears just kept falling as I shared that I had an abortion my senior year in high school. Irene was so accepting and supportive of me without even saying very much. She didn’t have to – I just kept talking and talking. I told her that I had not spoken to a counselor or even cried like this over the first abortion. Until that moment, I didn’t realize that I could or even should get counseling or grieve my first abortion. It was an end or a loss so it makes sense that I should grieve it.  In all this time, I had avoided my feelings surrounding that abortion. It felt good to talk and to get it all out.

Then I talked about why I wanted to get an abortion near me this time. My boyfriend, Morgan, and I have been together for a few years but I just wasn’t ready to have a baby. Morgan knows I am pregnant and said he would be supportive of me and whatever decision I made. There’s been so much going on and I just can’t have a baby now. Irene was supportive and encouraging. I appreciated that she respected my decision. Irene told me she is available for crying sessions. I laughed and thanked her. She really was wonderful. When I left Support Circle, I told Irene that I wish there were more people in the world like her and the nurse and asked if I could have a hug.

I am thankful to Support Circle for giving me an ultrasound to date my pregnancy and explained my options before I got an abortion near me. They gave me the time I needed to feel heard, were supportive of me and respected my decision.

I found Support Circle in a Search for Abortion Clinics Near Me while on a trip

 I live in China and every year, my parents sent me and my siblings to spend time with our family in San Francisco.  I continued this tradition with my sons. I took a pregnancy test the day after we arrived and immediately began searching for abortion clinics near me.

My husband is not the man I thought he was when I married him. He said he was supportive of me working and pursuing my PhD. But then, when our oldest son was born, he forbade me from working and became physically abusive. I had tried to leave once and that did not end well.  Traveling to America with my three boys every year had been our only break from him. I absolutely did not want to bring another child into this world with him as the father.

I found Support Circle Clinics while searching for abortion clinics near me. Since I did not know how far into the pregnancy I was, I decided to go to Support Circle for their free ultrasounds. I was further along than I realized. The nurse explained that I would not be able to have a medical abortion, as I had hoped, and she explained my abortion options in California.  Before I left, I talked to the advocate and explained my situation. She shared community resources that were available to me as a non-resident.

My cousin works at a large tech company in the Bay Area. While I was still in China, she had told me of a position that was perfect for me and arranged for an interview.  A few days after the interview, I was offered the job.  This meant that I could legally stay in America with my sons. The new job, supportive Bay Area family members and the resources I learned of from Support Circle gave me the confidence I needed to finally leave my husband.

I am glad Support Circle came up during my search for abortion clinics near me. The ultrasound, abortion information and community resources I received from Support Circle helped me to make decisions for my life that I am proud of.

I feared disapproval of my decision to go to an abortion clinic in San Francisco

When I found out I was pregnant, I decided to find an abortion in clinic in San Francisco.  I don’t live in San Francisco. I don’t even live in California. The town I live in is very small and abortions are hard to get. Even if I could have gotten an abortion in my hometown, I don’t think I would have because I feel like everyone would find out.

There’s not a whole lot to do where I live and my college doesn’t have a football team so my friends and I all go to the football games at the big college nearby. During my freshman year, we were invited to a party after a game. I met one of the football players at the party and we talked for a couple of hours. We kept in touch between games. He invited me to sit with his parents after we officially started dating. It was great that first year until I told him I was pregnant. He was so mad at me and blamed me for getting pregnant on purpose. He said that if I had the baby, I would ruin his life and his career because he was on a scholarship. He even told me he didn’t think it was his and broke up with me.  Then I got a call from his mom. Mrs. Taylor had always been really nice to me but not this time. Let’s just say that I knew I had to get an abortion.

I was too scared to tell my friends or my family that I was pregnant. There was no way I could tell them I had decided to find an abortion clinic in San Francisco. They are really judgmental and I know they would have disapproved. I didn’t have a choice. I had to do this so I couldn’t listen to their negativity.  My ex-boyfriend’s mom paid for me to go to California for the abortion.

The day I arrived in San Francisco I went for a walk. That’s when I saw a sign for Support Circle Clinics. The sign said: “Not okay to be pregnant?” Well, that was how I felt so I went in to their clinic. I had just done a home pregnancy test but I had not had an ultrasound. The nurse did the ultrasound and explained what I could expect after I took the abortion pill. I had kind of done some research on the abortion pill before, but I had a better understanding after talking to the nurse.

There was a patient advocate and she was really helpful. She let me talk. I had so much pent up because I couldn’t talk to the people I knew about being pregnant. It felt so good to finally talk about how I was feeling without the fear of being judged. I told her the truth. That I really wanted to run away and have my baby but I didn’t know the first thing about finding housing or even how I would afford it. All I had was the money Mrs. Taylor gave me for the abortion and a little more that I had saved from babysitting. The advocate shared local community resources with me and was supportive of whatever I decided to do.

I’m so glad I found Support Circle the day I arrived to go to an abortion clinic in San Francisco. I was able to get an ultrasound at no cost. Most of all, I received nonjudgmental support and was given the space to talk as I processed my thoughts and options for the first time since finding out I was pregnant.