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What are the top fears of men facing an unintended pregnancy?

What are the top fears of men facing an unintended pregnancy?

What does society know about men facing unintended pregnancies? Honestly, not much. The majority of the attention is focused on the woman and her decision. At Support Circle, we know that men have fears and concerns too. We know that men need a safe, civil place where they can address their most pressing concerns when faced with an unintended pregnancy. 

What are His fears?
A Public Opinion Strategies survey of men ages 18 – 30 was conducted in six major metropolitan cities in 2014. The men were asked to think about their most immediate concerns when faced with an unintended pregnancy and to describe their biggest concern. These were their biggest concerns:

  • Ability to financially support a child
  • Life will change too much
  • Relationship status- i.e. is there a future with the mother of the baby
  • How this will impact work and career
  • Ability to emotionally support a child
  • Emotions and stresses
  • What girlfriend/partner/wife will think
  • What parents and family will think
  • How this will impact school or education

Where do men go to discuss their fears? Who gives men the time, space and support he needs to address his biggest concerns? In the same survey, over two-thirds of men said that they would “definitely go to to counseling” or they would actively seek counseling on their own even if their partner was unwilling! Our firsthand experience at Support Circle has proven this to be true. Last year over 70% of the men were actively involved in counseling with our clients.

Support Circle is a safe, civil place where a woman and a man can address their most pressing needs, fears and concerns. It is a place they can both come and have a professional counselor facilitate a discussion so they can both really hear each other. She Matters. And so does He.

 

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She Matters. And So Does HE

She Matters. Not Just Her Decision

 

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She Matters. And So Does HE.

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She Matters. And So Does He.
At Support Circle, She Matters. And so does He. Support Circle offers tangible help by providing medical and counseling services where women can come to address their most pressing needs and fears when facing an unplanned pregnancy. We offer this to each woman because we believe She Matters. And so does He. Recent research by Public Opinion Strategies showed that for women unsure about their unplanned pregnancy, the number one concern/factor in their decision is the relationship with the father of the baby. The research also showed that most men would like to be involved with their partner in the decision-making process.

Support Circle recognizes that men need support as well in this situation and provides the following services for men:

  • Addressing financial questions and concerns in an individual counseling setting
  • Insurance assistance and enrollment
  • Answers to medical questions related to the pregnancy
  • Discussion facilitation – Sometimes conversations can be difficult with sensitive issues like an unintended pregnancy. Having a qualified third party facilitate discussion between the woman and the man is extremely helpful. Our professional counselors specialize in facilitating discussions with couples who are “unsure” of their pregnancy decision. All sessions are confidential and free.
  • Individual counseling – Enables the man to sort out his own thoughts and plans in complete confidentiality with a professional counselor.
  • Relationship counseling
  • Co-parenting counseling

Support Circle is a safe, civil place where a woman and a man can address their most pressing needs. It is a place they can both come and have a professional counselor facilitate a discussion so they can both really hear each other. She Matters. And so does He.

 

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She Matters, not just her decision

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She Matters

Not just her decision

At Support Circle, She Matters, not just her decision. From the moment she contacts Support Circle, we want her to know that She Matters. That is why we offer her multiple ways to contact us on her terms. She can search our website, chat with a nurse or schedule an appointment to meet our medical and counseling professionals.

We offer her a non-pressured environment that provides enough flexibility to address her specific needs. Her well-being is the priority during her appointments at Support Circle. Our friendly and professional staff at Support Circle’s three licensed Bay Area medical clinics provide her with a genuine opportunity to receive critical medical information and process her thoughts and feelings. And our counseling staff provides long-term, relational support for the coming year. Why? Because She Matters, not just her decision.

We offer her tangible help by providing a safe, civil place where she can come to address her most pressing needs and fears when facing an unplanned pregnancy. A place where people are not jumping all over her, demanding that she make one decision or another. But rather, a place that gives her deference so she can sort out her own thoughts and feelings to make a well-informed choice that she can own. A place where She Matters. Your financial support helps Support Circle provide a safe, civil place for her, where She Matters, not just her decision.

 

She Matters and So Does He

What are the top fears of men facing an unintended pregnancy?

A safe, civil place in the midst of fear

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Meet a Supporter: Lily Arbulich

John & Lily Arbulich

John & Lily Arbulich

Meet a Supporter: Lily Arbulich

Support Circle interviewed Lily Arbulich to learn more about her and why she supports the organization.

SC: What a great-looking couple! How long have you been married?

Lily: Thanks. You’re very kind. John and I have been married for 42 years as of this August. We have two sons, ages 36 and 34.

SC: How did you and John meet?

Lily: We met 45 years ago at a Baskin Robbins counter. John was buying his favorite ice cream. Baseball Nut. I was only 14-1/2 years old. We were both attending my church’s young people’s outing.

SC: What is your favorite flavor of ice cream, Lily?

Lily: Almond Fudge.

SC: What do you and John do for fun?

Lily: We enjoy taking a ride to Santa Cruz, Napa and other wine country locations on a beautiful sunny day with the top down to visit wineries. We love to travel to John’s native homeland, Croatia, where Mom and many relatives still live.

John and Lily

John and Lily

SC: Would you like to share your occupations with our readers?

Lily: For the past 15 years, I have been a caregiver for the elderly and families in need. For the past 35 years, John has been responsible for the engineers at his work in various companies in Silicon Valley.

SC: How long have you been supporters of Support Circle?

Lily: Hmmm… At least 10 plus years.

SC: What drew you to Support Circle?

Lily: We were drawn to Support Circle because it is a safe haven for women who are confused, frightened and unsure of what to do if they find themselves in an unplanned pregnancy. At Support Circle, women will receive grace, kindness and sincere concern for their present state from counselors, nurses and staff that will stand beside them and support them throughout their decision-making. We highly recommend giving your donation to Support Circle.

SC: Thank you for your time and support, Lily.

Lily: God bless you!

 

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A safe, civil place in the midst of fear

A safe, civil place in the midst of fear

Dear Supporters,

So much talk in the media is driven by fear. Many of our clients, before meeting us, are driven by fear. She fears judgment, the future of her relationship, how her family and friends will react. She has financial fear, fear about keeping her job, fear about not being able to finish school. She has fear about where she will live, fear about the unknown. Her fears are as unique as she is.

Support Circle offers tangible help by providing a safe, civil place where she can come to address her most pressing needs and fears when facing an unplanned pregnancy. A place where people are not jumping all over her, demanding that she make one decision or another. But rather, a place that gives her deference so she can sort out her own thoughts and feelings to make a well-informed choice that she can own. Your financial support helps Support Circle provide a safe, civil place for her.

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The Client Process at Support Circle provides enough structure that she experiences a non-pressured environment but also provides enough flexibility to address her specific needs. Her well-being is the priority during her appointments. Our friendly and professional staff at Support Circle’s three licensed medical clinics provide clients with a genuine opportunity to receive critical medical information and process their thoughts and feelings. And our counseling staff provides long-term, relational support for the coming year.

You can provide the strong, civil voice that’s needed: Women and men facing the fear of an unplanned pregnancy need a strong, civil voice.  They don’t need more voices from society that are motivated by fear.

You can help provide that strong, civil voice today through Support Circle.  I have made it the top priority in this organization to strengthen our voice and outreach, beginning first online, and then secondly in the community.  This spring we will not be holding our annual Benefit Dinner to enable our team to continue building our online presence and outreach. We look forward to 2017 when our premiere fundraising event will return. In the meantime, we still need your financial support without attending the physical event. We launched our spring fundraising efforts with the “Support the Circle” campaign. Your contributions complete the circle of supportive services around our clients, and provide the resources needed to bring a strong, civil voice to women and men facing the fear of unplanned pregnancy.

Would you give generously to this campaign so that together we can be that strong voice?  We are encouraging our regular banquet guests to give online and via mail what they would have given at the annual event. Please “Support the Circle” today, and your contributions will go towards direct services in our medical clinics and our outreach efforts!

Together we can replace fear with support, which leads to hope and lasting change!

Sincerely,

Albert K. Lee
Executive Director

 

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